We tend to develop certain habits in life due to many factors like experiences (good or bad), interactions with others, lifestyle etc.
Well, these habits can really affect us to the point where we develop genuine unhappiness. Now, you might be thinking that not all negative habits result in unhappiness. However, we are talking long-term unhappiness which absolutely results from bad thinking habits.
We tend to let negative experiences affect us and we hold onto our feelings and cannot seem to let them go.
Well, this needs to be changed so you can be happy again but first, you must identify the causes of your unhappiness…
How Can You Identify the Causes of Your Unhappiness?
It can be difficult to effectively identify the behaviors which negatively affect you. However, it can be done and it’s very necessary for your well being.
So, here are some ways you can do this:
• Honestly answer the question of “where do you want to be in life right now”?
• Are you doing what it takes to change your situation?
• Write down your short-term goals and pursue them immediately.
• Understand that everything requires a process, which starts with a decision by you.
You obviously want to be in a different situation which is why you are unhappy. Maybe you’ve even told yourself that you’ve tried everything… but if you did, you would be less unhappy because there is an answer.
You have the answer, you just need to ask yourself if you’re really giving life your everything, and for most people the answer is NO!
Many people are in denial when it comes to what they could be doing. It’s a defeatist mentality. This is why majority of people fail at finding happiness.
You should set goals and set out to achieve them because giving up should never be an option.
What is the most important thing to know about seeking happiness?
The most important thing to know is that you are in complete control of your happiness. People come and go but the people who contribute something meaningful to your life will contribute to your happiness.
It’s important to find good people to surround yourself with. It makes a big difference and ultimately you’ll desire to have a lot in common with certain people. So choose carefully.
Past experiences will cause the worst of unhappiness but too many people don’t correct this when they have the chance. Instead it lingers on and creates problems in your life and the life of everyone around you.
This is why therapy and other methods of mindfulness are so popular these days. The issue of depression, anxiety etc. is seen far too often and something major must be done especially since society gets even more complicated and more unsatisfactory for us at time goes on.
The answer is always within us and people often forget this as the focus has shifted recently to an external solution (Not the case).
Leave Your Feelings of Unhappiness Behind
Happiness is a choice and don’t let anyone tell you any different. The decisions you make everyday will greatly contribute to your happiness. You have to first understand what you want out of life and where you desire to ultimately be.
Have you tried hard and long enough to make your life happier? If not, then you know change starts with you.
Make short-term goals and as you progress, you will gain the confidence to do more. Set realistic goals but don’t sell yourself short. We must make a choice to dig up the root causes of our unhappiness so we can achieve our dreams and goals.