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What Causes You To Be Unhappy?

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We tend to develop certain habits in life due to many factors like experiences (good or bad), interactions with others, lifestyle etc.

Well, these habits can really affect us to the point where we develop genuine unhappiness. Now, you might be thinking that not all negative habits result in unhappiness. However, we are talking long-term unhappiness which absolutely results from bad thinking habits.

We tend to let negative experiences affect us and we hold onto our feelings and cannot seem to let them go.

Well, this needs to be changed so you can be happy again but first, you must identify the causes of your unhappiness…

How Can You Identify the Causes of Your Unhappiness?

It can be difficult to effectively identify the behaviors which negatively affect you. However, it can be done and it’s very necessary for your well being.
So, here are some ways you can do this:
• Honestly answer the question of “where do you want to be in life right now”?
• Are you doing what it takes to change your situation?
• Write down your short-term goals and pursue them immediately.
• Understand that everything requires a process, which starts with a decision by you.

You obviously want to be in a different situation which is why you are unhappy. Maybe you’ve even told yourself that you’ve tried everything… but if you did, you would be less unhappy because there is an answer.

You have the answer, you just need to ask yourself if you’re really giving life your everything, and for most people the answer is NO!
Many people are in denial when it comes to what they could be doing. It’s a defeatist mentality. This is why majority of people fail at finding happiness.
You should set goals and set out to achieve them because giving up should never be an option.

What is the most important thing to know about seeking happiness?

The most important thing to know is that you are in complete control of your happiness. People come and go but the people who contribute something meaningful to your life will contribute to your happiness.

It’s important to find good people to surround yourself with. It makes a big difference and ultimately you’ll desire to have a lot in common with certain people. So choose carefully.

Past experiences will cause the worst of unhappiness but too many people don’t correct this when they have the chance. Instead it lingers on and creates problems in your life and the life of everyone around you.

This is why therapy and other methods of mindfulness are so popular these days. The issue of depression, anxiety etc. is seen far too often and something major must be done especially since society gets even more complicated and more unsatisfactory for us at time goes on.
The answer is always within us and people often forget this as the focus has shifted recently to an external solution (Not the case).

Leave Your Feelings of Unhappiness Behind

Happiness is a choice and don’t let anyone tell you any different. The decisions you make everyday will greatly contribute to your happiness. You have to first understand what you want out of life and where you desire to ultimately be.
Have you tried hard and long enough to make your life happier? If not, then you know change starts with you.
Make short-term goals and as you progress, you will gain the confidence to do more. Set realistic goals but don’t sell yourself short. We must make a choice to dig up the root causes of our unhappiness so we can achieve our dreams and goals.

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Measuring Happiness

A smile is happiness you'll find right under your nose.

What determines your happiness? Is it a moment in time? An event? Are you able to replicate time and time again? When you think about happiness, it is highly unlikely that you measure your degree of joy in the world. You are instead quantifying or measuring your happiness by life experiences and overall fulfillment.

What is Happiness?

What defines your happiness may be the result of multiple factors and core values. Happiness occurs as the result of needs that are met. It is an individualized state of positive emotions including satisfaction, pride, joy, and well-being. Things are just the way they should be.

Psychologists indicate that our personal outlook drives at least 40 percent of our happiness. It is what we say it is. Only 10 percent is due to life circumstances, and our genetics predetermines the remaining 50 percent.

If you are happy, the frequency in which you encounter negative emotions such as anger, fear, sadness or frustration is low. Your happiness is what you determine it to be but it may require you to create a plan of action.

You have to identify what it is that brings you joy and look for ways to incorporate these experiences more often into your life. Additionally, you must choose to be a happy person consciously.

Quantifying Happiness: How Do We Measure It?

Quantifying your happiness should be the result of an entirely personal set of metrics. Daring to compare your happiness with what produces happiness for someone else is dangerous. When it comes to happiness, there is no standard for this metric. Yes, there is a standard of living that we might consider, and quality of life but what equates to quality for one person may not be the same for someone else.

Experts say that it is hard to quantify happiness. Unlike diabetes or high blood pressure where you are able to identify a core set of measurable values to assign a diagnosis, happiness is subjective.

According to Psychology Today, there are a few methods you can utilize to measure your happiness:With mirth and laughter let old wrinkles come.

Physical Health:  Some people have biological markers, including neurotransmitters and hormones that indicate happiness. People with lower levels of serotonin may be at risk or actively experiencing depression.

Behavioral Health: How we respond in a variety of situations may be another sign of how happy we are or are not. Happy people are likely to laugh, smile and indulge in helping others more frequently than those who are not full of joy.

Positivity over Negativity: Happy people are also more likely to avoid negative behaviors and activities than those who are not. They will purposefully surround themselves with happy people and keep those with negative energy out of their circle.

Freedom of Choices: Happy people often have a unique degree of freedom to make decisions that favor themselves or others in their lives.

Visible to Others: Happy people are not hiding their happiness. It is apparent to others, and for those who might be susceptible, this emotion can be contagious.

Self-Reported Happiness: Finally, happy people are quick to share their happiness. Studies show that happy people frequently talk about their happiness.

Summary:  In summary, happiness is what you determine it to be. It is a lifelong commitment that requires a consistent investment of your energy and focus. Your satisfaction should not be driven by the things that make other people happy. Instead, your happiness should be a product of those things that trigger positive emotions for you.
This positive emotion is subjective by many standards, but there are multiple key indicators that we can assess to determine if happiness exists and we have the power to make a real change to acquire happiness where it currently may not live.


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The Science Of Happiness

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Sometimes, human emotions seem unpredictable and beyond the understanding of cold science. However, all of our emotions, including happiness, are actually largely controlled by chemical messengers and receptors.

Some aspects of how these chemical chains of events are set off by the world around us are still not entirely understood. The processes themselves, however, are fairly well explained in the science of happiness.

What Causes Happiness?

While there are things that scientists have trouble with when studying emotion, the basic mechanics of emotion are fairly well understood.
Chemical messengers called neurotransmitters are produced in various parts of the body. Once released, these neurotransmitters travel to and through the brain until they are taken up by receptors on the ends of nerve cells.

Once the receptors are activated, the activities of the nerve cell are changed. Depending on the function and location of the nerve cell and the neurotransmitter involved, this can mean a number of different things. In the case of the neurotransmitters that deal with emotion, neurotransmitters can change the ways in which we think and feel.

Neurotransmitters don’t just control emotion, however. They also allow us to carry out physical activities. We’ll get more into the details of that in a little bit but for now it’s important to understand that that may be part of why some situations or physical actions can have an emotional impact on us.

By experiencing or preparing our bodies for a given situation, we also get all of the emotional effects of the required neurotransmitter.

The Neurotransmitters That Make You Happy

There are a lot of neurotransmitters. We may not have identified them all, and we may not completely understand all of those that we have identified. However, we do know that there are a few key neurotransmitters that influence happiness.

Oxytocin is one well known neurotransmitter responsible for happiness, specifically feelings of closeness. This neurotransmitter is released when you are close to people. It’s often thought of romantically, but it is also important and parental bonds with children and even to some extent in platonic and non-familial bonds like those that we share with friends. If you’re feeling down, spending some time with people that you are close too may help to put this happiness chemical to work.

Endorphins are another neurotransmitter involved in happiness, specifically feelings of excitement and satisfaction. What is most interesting about endorphins is that their release is caused by physical activities like working out and even laughing. Going for a run may help you to feel happier, even if you don’t particularly enjoy exercising.

Serotonin is another neurotransmitter involved in happiness, and another one that can be boosted by physical activity. It also goes up when you spend time in the sun. Like the other neurotransmitters discussed here, serotonin doesn’t only makes you happy, it also regulates your body’s internal clock. If your internal clock is disrupted, it can also throw off your serotonin levels. This is often the case for night owls or people who work night shifts in 24-hour industries.

What Causes Unhappiness?The greater part of our happiness

Because emotions are caused – at least in part – by the production, release, and uptake of neurotransmitters, any issue in this system can lead to emotional disturbances.

Some scientists believe that problems with the production of the neurotransmitters responsible for happiness or problems with their receivers, could cause depression.

Also, because neurotransmitters are responsible for emotions and physical actions, some medications can have emotional side effects. Similarly, many drugs impact the way that various neurotransmitters are released and received in the brain. While they may make a person feel good at the time, they can interfere with the natural process, making the person reliant on the drug.

The science of happiness may help to make you happier. Doing things that you enjoy is important too, however, even if this article didn’t mention one of your favorite things, if you don’t find joy in anything and reading this article didn’t help you boost your mood, consider talking to your doctor.

Be sure to mention any medications that you’re taking. Mood disorders like depression can happen for a number of reasons but if it’s happening to you because of a medication that you are taking it might be a simple fix.